Last week there was a lot of news about Caitlyn Jenner.
As expected there are
many ideas and opinions about her and how she is approaching this transition in her life. I personally have been so fascinated with this
story that I have read a fair amount of what has been written, and I have watched
anything that I knew was addressing her story.
(I suppose you could say I am one of the people that the media is
catering to in putting so much out there.) Most of what I have seen and read has been
useful. By useful I mean that it helps me see things from a point of view other than my own.
However, there is one sentiment I have seen that makes me feel
compelled to speak out.
There have been several posts on Facebook that show a
picture of a military image, a veteran, or a soldier that have said something along
the lines of, ‘With all the talk of Caitlin Jenner, let’s remember what real
bravery is/who the real heroes are.’
I realize that many people agree with this. I also realize that those who don’t agree may just
turn away from it. I however, have
repeatedly felt compelled to speak about the message this puts forth.
First let me say that calling Caitlyn Jenner brave does not
detract from the bravery of anyone else.
It is in the realm of the possible to see Caitlyn’s actions as brave AND
see the actions of any number of other people as brave as well. A person who is looking for their own
courage, their own source of bravery can look at Caitlyn Jenner and call her
their hero without it taking any bravery away from your heroes.
Some people may believe only one form of
bravery can exist. That the bravery of a
woman who is in the midst of a gender transition cannot co-exist with the bravery
of a soldier or veteran who fights/fought for freedom.
In the past several decades we have begun to move beyond
thinking that there can only be one way. We have
begun to recognize the reality that maybe a person can be in science and have faith in God. We recognize that the way
you read a book and interpret it may be vastly different than how another
person interprets it. Some of us even
recognize that this can be true of scripture.
In fact people even recognize that the way they understood a
passage of scripture 5 years ago may be different than how they see that same
passage today. There is room in the
world for variety and diversity. Even
among our heroes.
That brings me to my
next point. This is what has me so
bothered by all those posts. You see
when you say, “This is REAL bravery,” or, “These are the REAL heroes,” it also
sends the message that those are the only forms of bravery and heroes. Yes you get your point out that you see
Caitlyn Jenner as neither brave nor a hero.
You also discount many other forms of bravery, and many heroes that have
never ever worn a uniform or even held a weapon.
But please do not insinuate that their's is the only bravery
that counts, or that military heroes are the only ones that exist.
I see bravery every day in a million ways.
My older sister and my best friend who take chemo
regularly KNOWING that they will never be cured of the cancer that is trying to
destroy them, are brave.
The children who face school every day knowing they will
never learn like other people and will never be the kind of ‘smart’ the world
looks up to, are brave.
The single parents who struggle every day to be enough, do
enough, earn enough, they are brave.
Bravery exists in a million forms, and yes I think that
Caitlyn Jenner is brave. I doubt I would
have the courage to do what she has done if I were in her shoes. Instead I would probably keep myself trapped
in a false life that would eventually wear me down to a shell of a person. Yet that does not mean that I think my
brother, who was an Army Ranger and is now a police sergeant, is any less brave
than I did a month ago. He risks his
life every day for other people’s safety.
That is brave. It takes courage. My thinking Caitlyn Jenner is brave does not
diminish that.
I can also see that for millions of people out there who
have no idea how to find their own voice, Caitlyn Jenner might very well be a
hero. That does not make someone like
Noah Galloway any less a hero to the people who watched him prove to the world
that a ‘disabled’ vet with PTSD could overcome those labels and do anything he
wanted.
When you say that military people are the ‘real’ heroes, you
offend me as well. Not a single one of
the people I consider my ‘heroes’ have ever been in the military. The people I admire as heroes fought wars
without force, but with kindness, love, and knowledge instead. In fact
my greatest hero lived about 2,000 years ago for a brief 33 years. Jesus never fought in a military battle, he
never received accolades from a nation, and yet he is literally my hero, saving
me from a meaningless, empty life.
You do not have to like Caitlyn Jenner. You do not have to approve of her. I pray she no longer feels the need for approval
from the public. Though a little
respect, for her and the people who see her as a hero, would go a long
way.